Why do you think you have such a strong gay and lesbian following?
I’ve been asked this a couple of times recently. Honestly? I don’t know. Maybe because I’m a smart ass and don’t really care for stereotypes and prejudices, or maybe people can tell I’m open-minded and see everyone as individuals. All I know is, I’ve always identified with people who struggle and they’ve always seemed to identify with me.
We know you married your long-term beau, Carey Hart, last year, but have you had sexual relationships with women in the past?
I don’t like to talk about my private life too much, but I have, yeah. My first girlfriend actually really fucked my head up – she left me for my brother. I was only 14 at the time, but I still find it pretty gross. I could have understood her running off with a friend or classmate, but to go from kissing me to kissing my brother? Ugh.
How old were you when you first realised you were attracted to women?
The first time I really noticed another girl, I was 12 and used to go dancing at my local gay club. It wasn’t the best club I’ve ever been to, but the atmosphere was fantastic. I remember just dancing for hours and feeling really free.
What kind of ladies do you go for?
I don’t have a specific type when it comes to men or women. They can be blonde, brunette, butch or femme. The main thing is whether or not they have a great personality and a sick sense of humour.
Do you identify yourself as bisexual or queer?
I don’t like labels; they’re too easy. I’m just about good energy and good feelings. A lot of people feel the need to split the world into heterosexuals and homosexuals, but I really believe we’re all trisexual. The most interesting people I know are ones who refuse to categorise or define themselves by their desires.
Finally, any tips for our readers about becoming a better lover?
Pay attention and quit trying to get to the finish line so fast. It’s all about the journey, not the destination. That sounds clichéd – but it’s a cliché for a reason!